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I am Love Embodied

That’s what my friend “titled” me, when she titled all of us in our Positive Psychology program. Love Embodied. It was amazing how everyone’s new title fit – and captured – them so well. It was amazing how much mine was the essence of everything I believe and every way I want to be.

Love Embodied.

We had to define our purpose in our program. That was easy. My purpose is to love and be loved.

Perhaps I didn’t receive enough love – or at least enough healthy love – when I was young and that is why I love so much and so wholeheartedly. Perhaps my upbringing in a cult was destructive, but perhaps it also indoctrinated me to love with all my heart. Perhaps my journey towards health and recovery has taught me to come from love – self-love, love of others, love for the world – and to search out ways to connect and to share joy, beauty, and caring.

Whatever the reason, I love to love. And my friend recognized this. Recognized it enough to give me a nameplate.

Love Embodied.

I wear my new title proudly. I choose love each and every day. I love to love. I am Love Embodied.

I highly recommend it. It’s fun – and soul heartening – to love.

Love Embodied.

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If I’m going to take offense, I might as well go all out

Someone I love dearly said this to me. In their defense, they said it as a joke.

It can be a joke, and it can also have a message, at least for me.

I think I like to go all out with nearly everything. Those who know (and hopefully love) me would probably agree. I like to work hard, play hard, love hard, laugh hard, dig deep, give it all my all, have passionate conversations about values and beliefs, and dive into situations. So if I were going to take offense at something, I’d probably do that all out as well.

It also reminds me that taking offense is a choice. I can take it, or I can not. Someone can say the same thing to me on two different days, and my responses can be polar opposites. Sometimes I laugh things off and let things slide, and sometimes I take offense. Sometimes I take a lot of offense.

I coach my clients to be intentional about how they act and react. I coach them to make a decision about what they say and do. I can do the same about taking offense.

I can choose to not take anything, myself included, too seriously today, or I can take offense and go all out. And enjoy it.

I might as well go all out.

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Lean in the direction of what feels good

I can do it. I can choose to see what’s working. I can choose to see what’s good.

I have an option before me in every moment. Do I want to focus on a struggle, or do I want to focus on a joy? Do I want to see the challenges in front of me, or do I want to look for ease?

I sometimes choose ease. I sometimes choose joy. I’m doing my best to choose them more and more.

If something makes me happy, I can look at it longer. If someone makes me laugh, I can talk with them more often. If certain places, or activities, bring a smile to my face, I can immerse myself in them.

I can lean in the direction of what feels good.

I think we’re somehow sometimes taught that harder is better. That it’s more virtuous to wrestle our difficulties to the ground then to turn the cheek and look the other way. I’m a pretty good wrestler, especially for someone my size, but I’m learning, and relearning, and relearning, that I never seem to win those matches. And that they’re not worth fighting anyway.

I’m deciding to walk away. To let things be. To look at the sunshine, or a flower. To snuggle with those I love, and love those I see. To surround myself and my heart and my mind with pleasure and beauty.

And to lean in the direction of what feels good.

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