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I am ready to be ready

I (often) believe – or know – that everything is always working out for me. I (often) remember that, and remembering that always brings me ease.

I (often) believe – or know – that I don’t have to push hard to make everything happen. I don’t have to try harder, or more, or better. I (often) remember that, and remembering that always brings me release.

I (often) believe – or know – that my job right now is to do what’s right in front of me and to also enjoy what’s right in front of me. To breathe. To bask. To notice. To enjoy. I (often) remember that, and remembering that always brings me peace.

There are many things I want to have happen. I can’t force them. I don’t have to. I’ve learned that I’ve most likely done (and am doing) all I can and need to do, and now it’s just a matter of making myself ready for it to happen…by being – fully being, happily being – in my now.

I can listen to the kids playing in the neighbor’s pool. I can watch the flowers moving in the breeze. I can pay attention to the sunshine on the trees and the birds singing in the distance.

I can make myself ready to be ready – when I’m too caught up in fear or concern. I can breathe, slow down, observe what’s around me, and find a reason to smile. I can place a hand on my heart, to soothe myself, and remind myself that all is well.

I can let go. Give in. Release and relinquish. And each time I do life is grander and sweeter. I can love those I love with all my heart, and I can allow myself to feel loved in return.

I am ready to be ready for all that is to come. And I am loving this moment with all I have.

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Permission to be human

Perhaps you’ve heard this concept – permission to be human. I was reminded of it yesterday during the completion of my Positive Psychology program. Someone in the room mentioned that the process we’d gone through, and the Positive Psychology content (as well as the people in the class), had given them the permission to be human. To have feelings. To make mistakes. To not know. And not do.

Over the years I have learned to give myself permission to be human. I learn it again and again and again. I’ve learned to embrace “Oops!” again and again and again.

I used to think I was alone in my need to be more than human. Or super human. Or above human. It astounds me that so many – if not all – of us carry that internal critic and pressure. So many – if not all – of us feel compelled to never let anyone down, to never drop any balls, to never make a wrong choice.

Let’s give it up, huh?

Just like, as we sit in stopped traffic on the highway, my husband and I wonder what might happen if everyone just went 60 mph at the same time (jokingly of course), I wonder what would happen if we all agreed to drop the (internally imposed) obligation to be more than human and gave ourselves permission to be just as we are.

I grant you that permission, in case you need it from someone outside of yourself. I wave my magic wand, sprinkle my fairy dust, and click my heels three times, and behold, your compulsion to try harder can be eased.

I give you permission to be human. Today. All day. I give myself permission to be human. To take a breath and a break. To delight in the sunshine and the flowers in my garden. To connect with strangers, friends, and family.

I give you permission to be human. Enjoy it.

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A good exercise in not beating myself up

Something is not going exactly as I want it to go. I hate that. ☺

I faced a personal challenge a few years back, and I mostly eased and allowed myself all the way through it. I learned a great deal. I grew a lot. I evolved and changed and became even more of myself and more of whom I want to be.

And then it came back. At least a little bit. I hate that as well. ☺

I know – at least most of the time – that I will ease and allow and get through this again. I remember – from my positive psychology certification – to remind myself that I have handled everything that has happened to me so far, and I therefore can and will handle (and am handling) this as well. I realize – when I’m thinking clearly – that I will, once again, learn and grow and evolve and change and become.

And mostly I recognize that one of my first reactions to the struggle and challenge is to somehow blame myself for being here again. And that not only will not help me, but also there’s no reason to blame myself.

That’s an old, non-helpful habit – beating myself up. It doesn’t help. It doesn’t make things better. It, perhaps, does make sense based on my past, but it’s something I’m happily outgrowing and leaving behind.

This is a(nother) good exercise in not beating myself up.

Many of us seem to have a first impulse to hit ourselves when we’re down. “How could I be so stupid!” we berate ourselves. “If only I hadn’t…. (or had…)” we scold. “I should have known better!” we criticize.

None of this helps. Not at all. Just as “you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,” you help yourself learn and grow and evolve and change and become more with self-compassion than with self-lambasting. I help myself learn and grow and evolve and change and become more with self-compassion than with self-lambasting.

“This sucks,” I’ve learned to say to myself. “No wonder you’re scared,” I remind myself. “You’re doing great and I love you,” I say to myself over and over and over again.

Maybe some, or all, of you don’t need to say and hear these things, but I know that they certainly help and heal me.

This is a(nother) good exercise in not beating myself up.

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