I want nothing from you!

I want nothing from you!

The other day, as I hugged my older child, I shared a truth with them. “I just like to love,” I said. They laughed and replied, “I know.” I guess I don’t hide it well, my delight in loving. I like giving to others and connecting. I like hugging and having deep,...
I’ve never seen Danny (my dad) cry before…

I’ve never seen Danny (my dad) cry before…

For those of you have haven’t been following along, Danny has been on hospice since about last July. He’s not necessarily dying any time soon, although we have been told twice that it’s imminent. (It wasn’t.) I see him pretty much every day. I can’t begin to explain –...
Living with dualities is necessary, hard, and a gift…

Living with dualities is necessary, hard, and a gift…

Yesterday I went to see Danny (my dad) at the nursing home. I took my nineteen-year-old kid with me. I don’t remember how we got on the subject, but Danny started talking about a picture Robbie (my older brother) drew when we were kids. A picture of a deconstructed or...
Choose it all. Choose happy.

Choose it all. Choose happy.

I was hiking with my family – I’m lucky to have the four of us together. (My older child just spent six unexpected weeks at home in Pennsylvania, versus their “real life” in Minnesota. It’s the first time in years that they’ve been in Pennsylvania for six weeks, and...