I need to be heard.
I didn’t know this until I sat down one day to figure out my needs.
In coaching there is a concept of an “automatic sprinkler system” for one’s needs. I share this idea often with clients. I think I shared it today. It is, essentially, just like an automatic sprinkler system for our lawns. ☺ Only it waters our souls, instead of our grass.
We can be driven by unfulfilled needs and desires. If a need isn’t met, it’s generally all we can focus on, even if we don’t realize we’re focusing on it. Our unconscious and subconscious minds work to meet our needs, and our needs can dictate what we do (and don’t do) and how we show up, without our even knowing it.
By setting up an “automatic sprinkler system” – by finding ways to get our needs taken care of without our having to think about them – we stop this cycle. We’re then left with time, energy, and focus to live and enjoy more fully.
The concept can seem a bit “whooey,” but each time I identify a need, and then figure out a way to get it automatically filled on a regular basis, or even a semi-regular basis, life gets better. I feel lighter and freer. For that matter, every time I identify a need and simply acknowledge it – and accept and allow that I have it – I feel lighter and freer. I remind myself that it’s okay to have the need. I remind myself, once again, that it’s okay to be human. And I relax.
I need to be heard. Maybe that’s why I’m a coach and a speaker. Maybe that’s why I’ve written a book. Maybe that’s why I write this blog. That’s all okay.
I’ve found people and situations that let me feel heard. I’ve turned my sprinkler system on again.
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