I am blessed with children who teach me, always. Who remind me of what I know and have forgotten, or what I wish I knew. Or who make me question myself in ways that bring me growth (and joy).
I learned from my older child, even when they were little. They would be “off” on a day, and I’d look at them and think, “What’s your problem? Why are you so cranky?” Then I’d realize they were only mirroring my stinking mood.
So it’s no surprise that when I read their personal guidelines that they’ve written and taped on their wall, the guidelines made me pause. And be mindful of life and how amazing it is. And of how amazing my child is. (We all know I’m totally objective.)
I think you’ll like their lessons as well:
- Never stop questioning.
- Never stop learning.
- Read the news.
- Never just do what society says.
- Know there are no answers but find the truths – people, questioning, giving everyone that opportunity – that keep you sane.
- Appreciate the little things.
- Rebel in the little ways – eat at midnight and stay up late talking and wear big earrings and flannels.
- Allow everyone to have their own truths, but also allow yourself to disagree with them – you’re allowed to be judgmental sometimes.
- But also don’t force yourself to be cynical and angry – you can question and rebel against society in a way that openly explores and loves the world. Be open to those emotions. Be open to all emotions. Never stop seeking and finding happiness and love even in your questioning.
Never stop seeking and finding happiness and love even in your questioning. I think that’s my favorite.
I’d like to think I’ve taught them these things – at least some of them. Or at least “appreciate the little things.” But I gave up thinking my kids’ amazingness had very much to do with me long ago. They’re both pretty much who they are on their own. And my blessing is that I get to watch them and learn.
I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you!