I need to be heard.
I didn’t know this until I sat down one day to figure out my needs.
As part of my coach training, I learned that a life of joy is a life built around one’s values. And that we can’t focus our lives around our values unless we already have our needs met. Because unless our needs are at that cup is full or running over state, we are driven by them. Perhaps unconsciously, but driven by them nonetheless.
So in coach training, the first part of determining your values is first determining your needs. And the second part is setting up an “automatic sprinkler system” so that your needs get met.
The “automatic sprinkler system” for your needs is, essentially, just like an automatic sprinkler system for your lawn. ☺ It’s a system that comes on without you having to do anything about it, once it’s set up. Without you even having to think about it. And then it waters your soul, instead of your grass.
Again, if a need isn’t met, it’s generally all we can focus on, even if we don’t realize we’re focusing on it. Our unconscious and subconscious minds work to meet our needs, and our needs then can dictate what we do (and don’t do) and how we show up, without our even knowing it.
By setting up an “automatic sprinkler system” – by finding ways to get our needs taken care of without our having to think about them – we stop this cycle. We’re then left with time, energy, and focus to live and enjoy more fully.
The concept can seem a bit hooey, but each time I identify a need, and then figure out a way to get it automatically filled on a regular basis (or even a semi-regular basis) life gets better. I feel lighter and freer. For that matter, every time I identify a need and simply acknowledge it – and accept and allow that I have it – I feel lighter and freer. I remind myself that it’s okay to have the need. I remind myself, once again, that it’s okay to be human. And I relax.
I need to be heard. Maybe that’s why I’m a coach and a speaker. Maybe that’s why I’ve written a book. Maybe that’s why I write this blog. That’s all okay.
I’ve found people and situations that let me feel heard. I’ve turned my sprinkler system on again.
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