It is not about me

It is not about me

It’s funny to say that, since I’ve written a memoir and that’s all about me. I obviously think about myself quite often, and value my perspective enough to write it down and find a way to have it published. But it’s not all about me. Other people’s stuff? That’s not...
Am I kinda pausing, or really pausing?

Am I kinda pausing, or really pausing?

Again I’m in the middle of a yoga practice, and again the instructor offers me something to ponder, and reorient my mind around. “Are you kinda pausing, or really pausing?” she asks us, as we rest in a pose. I laugh. I talk about mindfulness and breathing and pausing...
Caring for myself is not self-indulgence

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” Audre Lorde My amazing, loving daughter likes to share quotes with me, and she shared this one. I had to share it here. I don’t even know what else I have to...
You’ll age well

You’ll age well

I’m at the gym again, with my daughter. We’re in our (most likely) embarrassingly too similar haircuts, shorts, and cut t-shirts. If I had to admit it, I’d admit that we look cute. I notice a woman on a machine near us. She looks confused and I look away. But then she...
Why didn’t I say no?

Why didn’t I say no?

“I had no choice,” I said to my brother. “Yes, you did,” he answered. “No, I had to show up,” I retorted. “No, you didn’t,” he threw back at me. We were curled up in the warmth of his apartment, the day after the huge blizzard that shut down New York City. I was...