Love, love me do

Love, love me do

It really is that simple. How can I love more and feel love more? Yes, one of my top five strengths from the VIA survey of character strengths is Love, so maybe that’s why I focus on it so much. But I think there’s a reason they say, “love makes the world go round.” I...
You can’t get it wrong

You can’t get it wrong

I think I have an underlying fear – at times – that I’m f—ing up. I think many of us do. My mind can barrel down a slippery, ugly slope. What if there’s a “right way” and I’m missing it? What if I’m not smart enough, or not figuring it out enough? What if I blow...
You’re perfect, just as you are

You’re perfect, just as you are

I’m noticing, again, how hard on ourselves we can all be. And how hard we can be on others. I’m noticing – all around me and in me – this need for things to be better. For us to be better. For others to be better. The compulsion to do more. To achieve more. To look...
When shutting up is good

When shutting up is good

I was with someone I love dearly. Someone with whom I am compelled to step in, to do all that I can. Someone whom I’m driven to help, even though they don’t need my help. We were talking about a current struggle they were facing. This person is, in at least some ways,...
I am a plunger

I am a plunger

I think it was my daughter who called me a plunger. In case you’re all worrying and wondering, it was a compliment. You see, she wasn’t referring to a “plumber’s helper” – that rubber tool we all run to get when something is clogged. She was calling me “one who...