What a radical thought. Be nicer to yourself. So often, when things get tough, we (or at least I) get tougher. Hunker down. Batten the hatches. Push forward. All that usual s—t.
Instead, how about if we’re nicer to ourselves? If I’m nicer to myself? Again, a radical thought.
I’ve had a slip in something I thought I was past, and I hear that not-so-subtle “editor’s” voice in my head berating me for being here. Didn’t I just write a week ago about how I’m right where I’m supposed to be and that everything – even this – is working out for me.
At least I’m aware of my editor. At least I hear the self-criticism and blame. At least I know to reach out to someone(s) who can remind me that blaming myself is silly…and not true. At least I know how to remind myself of that as well.
Instead I tell myself, “You’re doing great.” Instead I let myself take it slow. And slower still. Instead I pause, feel the breeze on my skin, see the beauty of the day, lose myself in a book, laugh with my kid, sneak a hug in from my husband, play a game of Labyrinth (the new hot game in our household).
Instead I’m nicer to myself. And nicer to myself even more. I am convinced that many of us could use to be a bit nicer to ourselves. Maybe the new golden rule is “Do unto yourself as you would have others do unto you.” Maybe that makes sense.
Be nicer to yourself. You deserve it. 🙂
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