Is it okay to expect someone to do what you’d do?

Is it okay to expect someone to do what you’d do?

Someone I know is letting me down. They’re not acting how I want them to act. They’re not doing what I want them to do. They’re not being how I want them to be. And I’m pissed. I’ve learned that “expectations are premeditated resentments.” If I expect you to be a...
A letter from my father

A letter from my father

I’ve written many times about how tough my relationship with Danny, my father, can be. I’ve told stories of his anger and distance when I was young, and of his anger and distance now that I’m an adult. I wonder what he truly feels. I used to never know that he...
What I’m giving Thanks for

What I’m giving Thanks for

It’s that time of year. The time of year when all, or at least most, of us give thanks. We gather around tables with people we love (or sometimes, people we tolerate) and acknowledge all we have. And stuff ourselves. I try to give thanks every day. Or nearly every...
Just breathe

Just breathe

Again yoga. Again a learning. A huge learning. A duh-uh learning, but huge nonetheless. I’m not sure if the instructor said it, or if I just thought it. But all of a sudden, as I “worked through” a pose, “just breathe” popped into my mind. Like, just breathe. Like,...
There is hope after…

There is hope after…

I want everyone to know that there is hope. I remember when I felt hopeless. When things felt like too much, and I felt like too little. I remember when my brother came to stay with me one night when I didn’t want to be alone, because I had lost hope. I remember when...