Sometimes it feels just too plain simple for me. And sometimes it makes sense and works.
Well, actually it always works, when I actually do it.
I’ve found it to be very true that I can’t feel good and bad in the same moment. I can only have one feeling coursing through me at a time.
And I do get to choose.
Even though sometimes it feels like I have no choice, I get to choose. Even though sometimes the bad feelings are overwhelming and ceaselessly flooding my senses and my brain, I get to choose. Even though I may know how justified my anger or fear or sadness or frustration or whatever is, I still get to choose.
It’s actually somewhat annoying. Empowering. Freeing. But annoying.
I get to choose if I stay with the feelings that don’t feel good or if I find something that feels better to think about. I get to choose if I focus how that person let me down or how that situation is not working out or is downright WRONG or if I find something that feels better to think about. I get to choose if I notice what’s not working, what’s not happening, and what I’m not doing or achieving or if I find something that feels better to think about.
Are you noticing the pattern here? 🙂
There’s a saying I’ve heard for years, “Would you rather be right or happy?” I’m happy to say that while sometimes I’ll still fight to be right, more often I am choosing happy. More often I’m letting go, soothing myself, and finding something that feels better to think about.
As I sit here on my side porch (I love my side porch!) on a late Saturday afternoon, I can be irritated that I have work to do (if you call writing this blog post and my newsletter and my social media work), or I can notice the gorgeous flowers in the hanging basket and the breeze on my skin. I can remember my incredible yoga class this morning and my incredible massage this afternoon. (It has not been a bad day.) I can look forward to the family time I’ll have tonight.
I get to choose.
I get to choose what I think about. I get to choose what I notice. I get to choose where I focus. I get to choose if I spend my time and mental (and emotional) energy on something that feels bad or if I spend my time and mental (and emotional) energy on something that feels good.
I get to choose.
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