This was offered by a yoga instructor, and it has stayed with me.

If I can’t breathe, why bother?

I know the instructor was talking about yoga poses and practice, but I find that it pertains not just to that but to pretty much everything.

Or actually to everything.

Whether or not I’m breathing is a good gauge of how I’m doing. My push and drive is such a slippery slope that I can truly believe I’m taking care of myself or coming from a place of compassion or doing what I can to help…and that is when I’m so constantly called out on my perfectionism (“you even try to do not perfect perfectly”) and my need to/for control.

But if I can notice if I’m breathing, and slow myself down and pull myself back when I’m not breathing, then I can actually ease and take care of myself and come from a place of compassion…and not control.

Because if I can’t breathe while I’m doing something – while I’m doing anything –why bother. Step back. Slow down. Just stop.

In fact, I’m going to stop there…and go breathe.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you!

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