“My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.” Imam Al-Shafi’i
I came upon this quote today. It brought me peace.
What a concept. That what was meant for me will never miss me and that what misses me was never meant for me. This takes away all worry and concern. It’s like faith in the universe on steroids.
It doesn’t mean I’ll stop working and trying and going for my goals and desires. It doesn’t mean I’ll stop dreaming, or putting in the effort to achieve my dreams. It just means that I don’t have to try so hard. Or push too much. Or maybe even go all out…except for when I want to.
I keep reminding my clients to stop and smell the roses. To take breathers. To enjoy their days. This quote reminds me to do the same. Because if what is meant for me will never miss me and what misses me was never meant for me, I have more time for roses and breathers.
Now, one could argue that this approach is a cop out. A sour grapes attitude. A giving up. I don’t see it that way. To me it’s not giving up, but giving in. Letting go. Trusting. And trusting a bit more.
I was walking past a window just a bit ago and looked up briefly enough to notice the sky…in its brilliant sunset. I could have missed it. I could have kept going with my task at hand. I could have kept trying and working and doing “what I needed to do.” But I stopped for a moment to stare at the sky. And smile.
And felt my heart ease.
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