It was, again, in therapy that this came to me.

It is, of course, not a surprise after a cancer diagnosis and journey. (Stay tuned, it’s nearly my cancerversary!)

What happens when you’re faced with a life-threatening diagnosis and journey? At least for me, you choose to live.

Live more. Live more fully. Live more intentionally. Live more lovingly. Live more joyfully. And love myself even, even, even more.

I will live and thrive.

I will grab life even more boldly and fully. I will make each day and each moment count, even more. I will live, love, laugh, and be every day, thankful and appreciative of every day.

I will turn inward and nurture and care for myself, so that I can find my truest (pun-ny word intentional for all former Moonies 😊), bestest, most caring, authentic, beautiful self…and then shine that light and love steadily inward more and then turn that light and love and shine it outward.

To my husband. To my kiddies. To my family – close and extended. To my friends and dear ones. To my clients. To my neighbors. To strangers. To the world.

I commit right now to taking each day less seriously and more consciously. To choose love more. To live life more. To laugh more. To play more. To care for myself more. To put my hand on my heart and curl up with my heated pillow/security blanket. To do absolutely all and anything I need and want to do to heal and be happy and be okay.

To do this for myself. To do this for all that was taken from me and denied to me when I was young. To do this as healing from how I was taught to sacrifice and suffer. To do this to reclaim my body, soul, brain, and spirit from this last year of hard. Very hard. To do this as a major “f—k you” to cancer. And a major “love you” to even the parts of me that were cancerous. To the parts of me that are now gone. To the parts of me that remain. To all of me.

I have so much more to live and love. I have so much more to laugh and learn. I have so much more to give and play.

Let’s all live and thrive for ourselves.

That’s my idea of a major “I will take more from cancer than cancer takes from me.”

How about you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you!

If you have been in ANY high control group or religion, share your story with the hashtag #IGotOut. Share on your own platform OR if you need to be anonymous and/or would like support, there are resources at the @igotout_org website.

When you see a survivor share their story, let them know they have been heard. This is such a meaningful part of the movement. We all need to know we’re not alone.

If you know someone who has been harmed by a high demand group, share #igotout posts or stories you think would help them.

Together we can bring awareness to how many of us have been harmed by high control organizations and end the shame or stigma we might feel about our experiences.

Tell your story
Impact lives
Change the world

Find out more at

Start reading 'to the moon and back' today!

Subscribe to my weekly newsletter and receive a FREE sample from my new book, 'to the moon and back'!

You have Successfully Subscribed!