Again, my yoga practice and instructor. Again, what I needed to hear.

Come from curiosity, not expectation.

It is so easy to go into situations, conversations, and daily life rife with expectations. Expectations that can leave me disappointed. Expectations that can leave others no wriggle room. Expectations that can bring me more strife and challenges than the joy and ease I’m looking and aiming for.

I can come from curiosity instead.

What will this day be like? What might happen now? What does this person have to share with me, and what do they really mean by what they’ve said (rather than what I assume they mean…and then I forget to check)?


I coach my clients to come from curiosity, and yet I can forget to do that myself.

In my yoga practice I can pay attention to how my body, soul, and spirit are showing up, not what I expect of them. In my meditation practice, I can be open to what comes up, rather than expecting myself to meditate a certain way. In my coaching practice I can be intrigued by what my clients bring and where the conversation goes, rather than aiming to achieve something specific.

In my daily life and the relationships that matter to me, I can be curious about everything and everyone, rather than falling into confirmation bias and seeing only what I expect to see and experiencing all of you only as I expect you to be.

I can come from curiosity.

How about you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you!

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