I don’t remember where I heard this. I think it was from one of my dearests.

Either way, it’s worth hearing, knowing, repeating, and living by.

At least to me.

Hopefully to you.

I do believe there is a dearth of self-love and self-compassion in this world. I do know that self-love and self-compassion have saved my life. I’ve seen them save other’s lives as well.

When we love ourselves, we believe ourselves and believe in ourselves.

When we love ourselves, we listen to ourselves.

When we love ourselves, we honor ourselves.

We also have more love and joy and groundedness to give to others.

As someone who was groomed not to know anything of my own, on my own, the concept of trusting what I know is still mind-blowing. I was recently listening to an episode of the Falling Out podcast, a podcast by a Moonie Second Gen (those of us born and/or raised) where he interviews other Second Gens. They were talking about how, in our cult, taking care of yourself was seen as selfish and sinful. How we were taught to live only for the sake of others. How we were taught that if we ever questioned or thought for ourselves, it was Satan inside of us, trying to grab us back from god.

The concept of trusting what I know is still mind-blowing. The concept of loving myself that much used to unfathomable.

But over the years, I have built a powerful love affair with myself. My self-love and self-compassion are huge, and they heal me and whole me every day.

I will let this ease me into even more trusting what I know to be true.

How about you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you!

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