This also came out of my mouth whilst in a session with a client. I don’t remember what she was talking about, but I do remember that it had her going around and around in circles.

“You don’t have to take it on or figure it out if it makes you crazy,” I said. “The crazy is not necessary.”

The crazy is not necessary. What a mind-blowing idea.

I can still get caught in mind-flips trying to make something work or make something better or make things okay, and it can still make me crazy.

The crazy is not necessary.

I can still loop over and over and over in my brain about the same situation or the same challenge or the same conversation, and it can still make me crazy.

The crazy is not necessary.

I was at a bodywork session last week, and the practitioner was helping me grasp that whilst my huge, visceral, emotional and physical releases can be and are healing, I don’t have to have a scary huge release in order to heal. Even in order to heal huge trauma.

Even there, the crazy is not necessary.

What is necessary instead?

Letting go of the trying and being with allowing. Stopping the pushing and being with accepting. Cutting short the self-judgment and doubt and being with self-compassion and love.

All that is necessary, I think, is that we show up with as open a heart and mind as possible, with love for ourselves and others and openness to the beauty, light, love, and ease of the universe.

The crazy is not necessary, and surrendering the crazy brings so much more beauty, light, love, and ease to me.

How about you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, and please share this post with others if it resonates with you!

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