Damn it! I’m still feckin’ trying so hard!

Damn it! I’m still feckin’ trying so hard!

by | Sep 13, 2021 | Recovery

I was in a coaching session with a client yesterday. A client who also had an extreme religious upbringing. She was telling me about how compelled she was to go out of her way to do something for her kid. “I have such a need to do things well,” she said. “I don’t know...
Let go of your head

Let go of your head

by | Sep 6, 2021 | My Story

I know my head often means well, but my head often gets in my way. The “stinkin thnkin” I can have that keeps me stuck and hurting. The need to convince, to explain, to do whatever it takes to win your agreement and approval. The endless loops I can go around and...
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems

Acceptance is the answer to all my problems

by | Aug 30, 2021 | Recovery

Many, many years ago, when I was at an all-time low, someone shared with me page 449 of the Alcoholics Anonymous “big book.” “Read it,” they said. “Read it and reread it and reread it and remember it.” It reads like this: “And acceptance is the answer to all my...
What other people think of me is none of my business…

What other people think of me is none of my business…

by | Aug 23, 2021 | Recovery

I first heard this decades ago, in Al-Anon. I’ll come clean – I’m still working on it. The concept blew me away back then. I repeated it over and over to myself. I shared it with clients. I etched it on my brain. I thought I “got it.” But damn, this one is hard for...