As a former cult kid…

As a former cult kid…

A dear Second Gen (those of us born and/or raised in an extremist group or cult) friend and I were texting. I don’t remember about what. What I do remember is her response at one point. “As a former cult kid…” her text reply started. It hit me hard. I’ve been out of...
Today I’m focusing on fun and joy

Today I’m focusing on fun and joy

As we all know, my drive and perfectionism are wonky. Yes, these coping mechanisms were carved into my brain. Intentionally carved into my brain. Yes, they saved my life back then in so many ways. Yes, they have taken me far and are a huge part of who I am and,...
Am I allowed to do that????

Am I allowed to do that????

Sometimes when I meet Second Gens (those of us born and/or raised in an extremist environment) from my cult, they ask me, “Why are you so healthy and whole? “I’ve been at this healing thing since before you were born,” I invariably reply. “It’s been a long, long...
Speak the truth with a clear voice

Speak the truth with a clear voice

There is a church song that has been going through my head, pretty much nonstop. I mentioned this to a Second Gen friend of mine in a text chain. Her response was quick. “Nauseous” The song that is playing inside me? “I’ll never leave you anymore.” As I have written...
When we’re distracted, we miss our life

When we’re distracted, we miss our life

The last few weeks – okay months – have been tough. As many of you know, my father-in-law was very ill, and we basically moved in with my in-laws to care for them and to have time with them. It is something I will always be so thankful that I had the opportunity to...