Let life be just as it is

by Lisa Kohn | Jan 18, 2021 | My Story

I was struggling with something. It was getting to me and getting me down. Mostly it was getting me down because I thought I “should be over it” already. That others would look at me and think, as I was, “Why aren’t you over it already???” Someone I love reminded me...

Why self-patience and self-compassion can be so hard…and how (and why) to do them anyway

by Lisa Kohn | Jan 11, 2021 | Recovery

This past week was hard. No other way to look at it. Not hard because I can’t believe our Capitol was stormed. Hard because I can’t believe people can’t believe our Capitol was stormed. Hard because I’m pretty sure there was a faction of my former cult there, storming...

I am putting down my addiction to “right” and “wrong”

by Lisa Kohn | Jan 4, 2021 | Resilience

I know I’ve written before about how I can get caught in needing to figure out what’s “right” and what’s “wrong” so that I can always do what’s right. What I’m realizing now, more and more each moment it seems, is how much I’m addicted to this. I am now determined to...

This simple question can change my day

by Lisa Kohn | Dec 28, 2020 | Recovery

I learned years ago, in Al-Anon, to “pick up my mind and put it somewhere else” when I was distressed. I learned then – and again during my Positive Psychology certification – that while we think we feel certain ways because of what’s happening or what someone is...

I’m gonna do it messily

by Lisa Kohn | Dec 21, 2020 | Resilience

I was talking the other day with someone I respect. Someone I turn to when I get caught in my old belief patterns and behaviors. Someone who calls me on my shit and who loves me unconditionally and who is my main reality check and cheering squad. We were (lovingly)...