Don’t should on yourself

Don’t should on yourself

I heard this decades ago in Al-Anon. I still share this idea with my clients (and friends…and kids…and…). Don’t should on yourself. So often we get caught in, “I should have known that” (my favorite), “I should do this,” “I should have done that.”’ These are all ways...
Follow your bliss

Follow your bliss

Perhaps we’ve all heard this saying, “Follow your bliss.” I think sometimes we think this means to do whatever it is we want to do, whatever makes us happy. And, I suppose, that’s part of it. I know sometimes I think this means find what eases me and soothes me. And,...
Where I am just now is just right

Where I am just now is just right

It’s definitely been a few interesting weeks of going slower than I think I can go. Of doing less than I have to do. Of not being where and how I want to be. And it’s definitely been a few interesting weeks of letting that be okay. Letting it, in fact, be just right....
Everything in moderation. Nothing to fanaticism.

Everything in moderation. Nothing to fanaticism.

When you’re raised as I was, with what seems like, at times, only fanaticism, this concept is a bit tough to grasp. Moderation doesn’t save the world. Moderation doesn’t protect you when you’re not safe. Moderation doesn’t prove your worth. How can moderation be...
Awareness of…

Awareness of…

Someone I trust gave me a key recently. A key to greater mindfulness. A key to help me stay even more in the present moment. A key to bring me back to here and now and me when I start to drift or wander. “Awareness of…” Apparently, it’s a mindfulness practice that...