I have nothing to prove

I have nothing to prove

There are so many ways that I can feel as if I don’t measure up. There are so many times when I see myself as lacking something – or as just lacking. There are so many moments when I watch myself through judging eyes. I try to remind myself that I have nothing to...
How to find your way back

How to find your way back

It was my book reading in DC. There were people attending who I knew from various parts of my life – high school friends, local friends, family. There were strangers attending who had come simply to hear me talk and to buy my book. (Very cool!) There were former...
Is this thought satisfying?

Is this thought satisfying?

I have learned – at least for me – that my brain is a muscle I can train and develop. I have learned that I can – if I try – pick up my thoughts and put them somewhere better. I have learned – and I try and remember – that I might not have control in this moment about...
We are only as sick as our secrets

We are only as sick as our secrets

When I crawled into Al-Anon over thirty years ago, grasping the refrain resounding in my head – “Tell me if he’s an alcoholic. There’s no way I would ever be with an alcoholic.” – this was one of the simple, yet powerful, slogans they offered me. “We are only as sick...
I am under the influence

I am under the influence

That’s the thought that came to me this week, “what influence am I under?” Am I looking for the good, as I’ve taught myself to do. Am I appreciating? Am I allowing? Am I basking and enjoying and noticing what’s working? Am I at ease? Or am I worried? Am I choosing to...