It’s not about forgiveness…

by Lisa Kohn | Dec 14, 2020 | Recovery

I was interviewed on a podcast recently – I’ve been interviewed on many podcasts recently. The host asked me if I have (had) forgiven my mother yet. Maybe both of my parents, but definitely my mother. “It’s not about forgiveness,” I answered. There was a time I...

The wee engine that will (perfectly) no matter what

by Lisa Kohn | Dec 7, 2020 | Resilience

I don’t know if I’m proud or a wee bit embarrassed that this is the newest nickname my older brother gave me. Or, if I were being fully truthful, that we both gave me. I guess that kinda gives a sense of how I feel about it. The wee engine that will (perfectly) no...

It’s okay where you are

by Lisa Kohn | Nov 30, 2020 | Recovery

I heard it again. Every time I hear it, it helps. Where I am just now is fine. Damn, but that causes a sigh of relief Every. Single. Time. Where I am just now is fine, because it’s where I am. It has to be fine, because pushing against it just doesn’t work for me. I...

Stepping away from compulsive selflessness

by Lisa Kohn | Nov 23, 2020 | Recovery

Compulsive selflessness. I wish I could say the term was mine, but I heard it from another Second Gen (someone born and/or raised in an extremist group) from the cult I grew up in. Compulsive selflessness. We were literally taught to “live our lives for the sake of...

Stand in your power

by Lisa Kohn | Nov 16, 2020 | Resilience

Yes, I am powerless. Yes, I still think I have power. And responsibility. Power and responsibility to make sure people around me are happy. Power and responsibility to make sure they don’t get upset with me. And yes, I am wrong about that. Completely, magnificently,...