When all else fails, choose love

When all else fails, choose love

I am remembering, once again, to choose love. When I am stuck in a tough spot, I repeat to myself, over and over, “I choose love.” It brings me ease. When I get caught up in myself, I remind myself, over and over, of all the love within and around me. Of all the love...
I’m remembering that feelings are not facts

I’m remembering that feelings are not facts

Have you ever noticed your brain working against you? You’re sitting there quietly, minding your own business, and suddenly the fear explodes within you or the guilt engulfs you? “Damn!” you think. “Where did that come from?” And before you know it, you’re down that...
Soothe yourself as often as you can

Soothe yourself as often as you can

It’s a simple thought. It’s an important thought. Soothe yourself as often as you can. The more I connect with other Second Gens (people born and/or raised in cults or extremist situations). The more I connect with other people who have faced childhood challenges (or...
I spoke at a workshop on extremist groups last week

I spoke at a workshop on extremist groups last week

It was an amazing week. I was in Scotland, where I hadn’t been since the late 80s when I went back to visit my friends from when I spent a semester at the Uni there in the early 80s. I was in Stirling and walked the Uni. I was in Edinburgh. I saw old friends and made...