Let go of your head

Let go of your head

I know my head often means well, but my head often gets in my way. The “stinkin thnkin” I can have that keeps me stuck and hurting. The need to convince, to explain, to do whatever it takes to win your agreement and approval. The endless loops I can go around and...
Living with dualities is necessary, hard, and a gift…

Living with dualities is necessary, hard, and a gift…

Yesterday I went to see Danny (my dad) at the nursing home. I took my nineteen-year-old kid with me. I don’t remember how we got on the subject, but Danny started talking about a picture Robbie (my older brother) drew when we were kids. A picture of a deconstructed or...
As a former cult kid…

As a former cult kid…

A dear Second Gen (those of us born and/or raised in an extremist group or cult) friend and I were texting. I don’t remember about what. What I do remember is her response at one point. “As a former cult kid…” her text reply started. It hit me hard. I’ve been out of...
Today I’m focusing on fun and joy

Today I’m focusing on fun and joy

As we all know, my drive and perfectionism are wonky. Yes, these coping mechanisms were carved into my brain. Intentionally carved into my brain. Yes, they saved my life back then in so many ways. Yes, they have taken me far and are a huge part of who I am and,...