Being raised in a cult definitely f—s with your head

Being raised in a cult definitely f—s with your head

For those of you who have somehow missed my “life story” in all of this, I was raised in a cult. I like to say “the cult of all cults in the American age of cults.” I was a Moonie, from the age of ten to about seventeen or twenty-one. (Let’s just say, it was a long,...
There is no right way

There is no right way

I’m getting caught in it again. That surety (that false surety) that there is a right way to do something (everything) and that somehow, I’m missing it. Or I haven’t figured it out yet. Or I’m doing the opposite of the right way, without knowing it. It’s a surety…and...
You do you

You do you

The other day I was saying goodnight to my kid. I asked if he needed me to be around when he woke in the morning, or if his alarm was set and he was okay and I could head to the gym. “I’m good,” he answered. “You do you.” “You do you.” That made and makes me smile. It...
What’s the story you’re telling yourself?

What’s the story you’re telling yourself?

It’s a paradox. Even as I’m learning more and more, and more and more, to give up control and to stop trying so hard – at just about everything – I’m also learning more and more, and more and more, that I have more control than I often think I have. In some ways it...