You do you

You do you

The other day I was saying goodnight to my kid. I asked if he needed me to be around when he woke in the morning, or if his alarm was set and he was okay and I could head to the gym. “I’m good,” he answered. “You do you.” “You do you.” That made and makes me smile. It...
What’s the story you’re telling yourself?

What’s the story you’re telling yourself?

It’s a paradox. Even as I’m learning more and more, and more and more, to give up control and to stop trying so hard – at just about everything – I’m also learning more and more, and more and more, that I have more control than I often think I have. In some ways it...
I am very glad he’s getting my dad high

I am very glad he’s getting my dad high

If you’ve read to the moon and back, you know that Danny (my dad) had a friend, “Tony”, to whom he used to (jokingly) offer to sell me to for cocaine. (If you haven’t read it yet, here’s a sample chapter that will hopefully entice you to.) While I may have somehow...
I’m no longer calling him the Messiah

I’m no longer calling him the Messiah

There’s a line I use when I describe a particularly scarring moment in my adolescence – “The Messiah said I was bad.” In many ways this accurately captures what happened. A dear friend of mine was caught in a desperate situation, and in order to protect herself – to...
Choose joy

Choose joy

It’s an easy reminder, and it’s an easy reminder to forget. Choose joy. Take charge of my thought process and find the thought that feels a bit easier. That brings me more light. Face what I have to face, solve what I have to solve, do what I have to do – and then...