Move toward joy (not away from pain)

Move toward joy (not away from pain)

I spend a good deal of time creating joy, finding things that bring me joy, allowing joy, and as much as possible, being joy. I do it. I teach it. I firmly believe in it (and maybe even know it). And then I heard the other day, “move toward joy, not away from pain,”...
Let go of your head

Let go of your head

I know my head often means well, but my head often gets in my way. The “stinkin thnkin” I can have that keeps me stuck and hurting. The need to convince, to explain, to do whatever it takes to win your agreement and approval. The endless loops I can go around and...
Living with dualities is necessary, hard, and a gift…

Living with dualities is necessary, hard, and a gift…

Yesterday I went to see Danny (my dad) at the nursing home. I took my nineteen-year-old kid with me. I don’t remember how we got on the subject, but Danny started talking about a picture Robbie (my older brother) drew when we were kids. A picture of a deconstructed or...
As a former cult kid…

As a former cult kid…

A dear Second Gen (those of us born and/or raised in an extremist group or cult) friend and I were texting. I don’t remember about what. What I do remember is her response at one point. “As a former cult kid…” her text reply started. It hit me hard. I’ve been out of...