Soothe yourself as often as you can

Soothe yourself as often as you can

by | Jun 25, 2019 | Recovery

It’s a simple thought. It’s an important thought. Soothe yourself as often as you can. The more I connect with other Second Gens (people born and/or raised in cults or extremist situations). The more I connect with other people who have faced childhood challenges (or...
I spoke at a workshop on extremist groups last week

I spoke at a workshop on extremist groups last week

by | Jun 17, 2019 | Recovery

It was an amazing week. I was in Scotland, where I hadn’t been since the late 80s when I went back to visit my friends from when I spent a semester at the Uni there in the early 80s. I was in Stirling and walked the Uni. I was in Edinburgh. I saw old friends and made...
Beauty is all around me…am I noticing it?

Beauty is all around me…am I noticing it?

by | Jun 10, 2019 | Recovery

The sun is shining. The breeze is whispering through the trees. The wind chimes are chiming. The birds are chirping. There is so much beauty all around me. Am I noticing it? Each day – each moment – I have a choice. Left to its own devices, my mind can swirl with...
What are the other dumb things that I believe?

What are the other dumb things that I believe?

by | Jun 3, 2019 | Recovery

Whenever my clients tell me it’s like they have me whispering in their ears – like the cartoon angels and devils sitting on the shoulders of cartoon characters and whispering in their ears – I apologize wholeheartedly. I know my mind can be a scary place to be inside...
A good name for god is “not me”

A good name for god is “not me”

by | May 27, 2019 | Recovery

This isn’t my line. (It’s Anne Lamott’s line.) But I think it’s a good line. Whatever your thoughts are about god (or God, or G-d, or goddess, or any other power greater than yourself), at least for me, it’s a great reminder that it’s not me. As I’ve written before, I...