Don’t should on yourself

Don’t should on yourself

I heard this decades ago in Al-Anon. I still share this idea with my clients (and friends…and kids…and…). Don’t should on yourself. So often we get caught in, “I should have known that” (my favorite), “I should do this,” “I should have done that.”’ These are all ways...
Everything in moderation. Nothing to fanaticism.

Everything in moderation. Nothing to fanaticism.

When you’re raised as I was, with what seems like, at times, only fanaticism, this concept is a bit tough to grasp. Moderation doesn’t save the world. Moderation doesn’t protect you when you’re not safe. Moderation doesn’t prove your worth. How can moderation be...
Awareness of…

Awareness of…

Someone I trust gave me a key recently. A key to greater mindfulness. A key to help me stay even more in the present moment. A key to bring me back to here and now and me when I start to drift or wander. “Awareness of…” Apparently, it’s a mindfulness practice that...
I’m going to complain less and praise more

I’m going to complain less and praise more

I wouldn’t call myself a complainer, really. It’s not usually where I come from. I generally don’t get too caught in listing all that’s wrong in and around me or in dwelling on what’s causing me pain and stress. I generally don’t get too caught, but I can get caught....
If it doesn’t bring you joy, don’t do it!

If it doesn’t bring you joy, don’t do it!

It was my Saturday morning yoga practice, with one of my favorite instructors. (Truth be told, they’re all pretty much my favorite instructors!) “If the pose doesn’t bring you joy,” she told us, “don’t do it.” What a concept! I am generally not one for opting out of...