Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.

Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.

by | Jan 14, 2019 | Recovery

It was my holiday gift from my older kid. A magnificent, weighty mug with words on it. Words that my kid, along with perhaps many other people, thought I needed to hear and know right now. Words I think that maybe many, if not all, of us need to hear and know right...
Progress not perfection…again

Progress not perfection…again

by | Dec 10, 2018 | Recovery

I first heard that saying when I crawled into Al-Anon. “Progress not perfection.” I have to admit, I didn’t quite understand it when I first heard it. Yes, it was a soothing thought. Yes, it took the pressure off. Yes, it gave me leeway to be human (something that...
Relax into it

Relax into it

by | Nov 26, 2018 | Recovery

Again, a yoga practice. Thank goodness I have my yoga practice and instructors to remind me of what I think I know but somehow always need to be reminded of. Relax into it. It’s true of my yoga practice. It’s true of my life. My general way of being? Push through...
I have nothing to prove

I have nothing to prove

by | Nov 5, 2018 | Recovery

There are so many ways that I can feel as if I don’t measure up. There are so many times when I see myself as lacking something – or as just lacking. There are so many moments when I watch myself through judging eyes. I try to remind myself that I have nothing to...
We are only as sick as our secrets

We are only as sick as our secrets

by | Oct 15, 2018 | Recovery

When I crawled into Al-Anon over thirty years ago, grasping the refrain resounding in my head – “Tell me if he’s an alcoholic. There’s no way I would ever be with an alcoholic.” – this was one of the simple, yet powerful, slogans they offered me. “We are only as sick...
Does the fear ever go away?

Does the fear ever go away?

by | Jun 18, 2018 | Recovery

That’s the question I was asked. “Does the fear ever go away?” It was an inquiry on my website from an ex-Moonie. I get them periodically. I love getting them. I devour them as soon as I notice they’re there, and then I reread them a few more times. My next step is...