If you can’t breathe, what’s the point

If you can’t breathe, what’s the point

Again, a yoga practice. Again, exactly what I needed to hear. If you can’t breathe, what’s the point? I know the instructor was focused on our yoga and our poses, but this resonated me bigger and deeper than just that. It’s true of my yoga practice, because it reminds...
It sucks to be human when you were raised not to be

It sucks to be human when you were raised not to be

I was on the phone with a Second Gen friend (those of us born and/or raised in an extremist situation or cult). She has two young kids and had lost it with one of them. Her shame slam was huge, because she felt she hadn’t been the amazing mom she wants to be. I let...
We all probably need a bit more self-compassion

We all probably need a bit more self-compassion

I am slowly coming back into my body and my self, after the week of disassociating in order to record the audiobook. It. Was. Hard. I know I still have a lot to process, as there were things I read that I’d never excavated in therapy, that I haven’t released the...
Day of celebration is at hand

Day of celebration is at hand

I just finished recording the audiobook yesterday. Today we’ll wrap with a Q&A postscript, and I’ll probably sing a few stanzas of Church “holy songs” for the last chapter. Let me tell you now, singing those is weird. And triggering. And hard. And also affirming...
We are here! We are here! We are here!

We are here! We are here! We are here!

I grew up on Horton Hears a Who. Well, I grew up on a lot of Dr. Seuss, especially Fox in Socks, as I had a lisp, and they made me read that book for speech therapy. It was brutal! But I love it now. In Horton Hears a Who there’s this scene where the Who’s on the dust...
Anger tells us what we need

Anger tells us what we need

I was raised never to be angry. Perhaps many of us were. Especially those of us raised as girls. Especially those of us raised in a purity culture cult, where Eve was the absolute cause of all human suffering. Because of her sinfulness. Because of her wantonness....