I have nothing to prove

I have nothing to prove

There are so many ways that I can feel as if I don’t measure up. There are so many times when I see myself as lacking something – or as just lacking. There are so many moments when I watch myself through judging eyes. I try to remind myself that I have nothing to...
We are only as sick as our secrets

We are only as sick as our secrets

When I crawled into Al-Anon over thirty years ago, grasping the refrain resounding in my head – “Tell me if he’s an alcoholic. There’s no way I would ever be with an alcoholic.” – this was one of the simple, yet powerful, slogans they offered me. “We are only as sick...
Does the fear ever go away?

Does the fear ever go away?

That’s the question I was asked. “Does the fear ever go away?” It was an inquiry on my website from an ex-Moonie. I get them periodically. I love getting them. I devour them as soon as I notice they’re there, and then I reread them a few more times. My next step is...
Let your head go

Let your head go

That’s what the yoga instructor said. “Let your head go.” I’m pretty sure she was talking about physically releasing the muscles in our necks, thinking about relaxing and not holding our heads up, as we eased into humble warrior pose. Needless to say, I heard a bunch...
Let go and let god

Let go and let god

There really isn’t much more to say after that. I learned “let go and let god” years ago, when I first crawled into Al-Anon. It was one of the many sayings and practices that saved my soul and helped me begin to piece my life back together. It’s at least as essential...