What’s all this about Post Traumatic Growth?

What’s all this about Post Traumatic Growth?

Someone messaged me on my Facebook page last week. “How do you do it,” they asked, “the Post Traumatic Growth?” For those who haven’t heard of PTG – Post Traumatic Growth – it’s kinda the other end of the spectrum from PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is...
If you’re in a place of struggle, back off a bit

If you’re in a place of struggle, back off a bit

I was taught that struggle was good and godly when I was young. I knew that the more struggle I endured, the better and that the answer to struggle was to work harder and push through more. I was taught to fight with my life, in fact. I now know that this is one of...
There I go wanting things to be different again

There I go wanting things to be different again

I do know that “acceptance is the answer to all my problems.” It’s page 449 in the (old) AA Big Book, and it always soothes me when I finally remember it. Well, first it pisses me off, and then it soothes me. But it can take a while to remember each time. And it’s...
Keep the focus on myself

Keep the focus on myself

Another thing I learned when I first crawled into Al-Anon decades (yes decades) ago. Keep the focus on myself. The only way to not get caught up in needing to control what others say, think, feel, and do is to keep the focus on myself. Like much of what I heard in...
Surrender (even) more fully

Surrender (even) more fully

Back when I was physically in the yoga studio again, the instructor offered this. Well, she actually offered, “Surrender more fully,” but I added the even. Because it’s what I needed to hear – and need to hear – again and again and over and over. I first learned that...