by Lisa Kohn | Jul 3, 2023 | Recovery
“So, it’s okay that I have boundaries. That I say no. That I speak up for what I want,” I said to my therapist. “Not exactly,” she answered. “The truth is that boundaries are sacred.” I was blown away. “Everyone is not only entitled to them, but also needs them,” she...
by Lisa Kohn | Jun 19, 2023 | Recovery
This popped up on my mindspace reminder last week. It annoyed me. Perhaps especially since it’s so true. It also called me out on how much I want things to be different at times. I sent it to a dearest, who is having nearly the toughest of times. It might have annoyed...
by Lisa Kohn | Jun 5, 2023 | Recovery
I was texting last week with a dearest who was having challenges with someone close to her. Specifically with her extreme need to keep the person close to her happy, coupled with her seeming inability to do so. The other person’s requests were more than my dearest...
by Lisa Kohn | May 29, 2023 | Recovery
My yellow birds have disappeared for over a week. I am sad. I really, really, really do feel so much joy every time I see one. I am also aware that I could find meaning in their being gone. My kid and I discussed this today – if I see their appearance as proof of...
by Lisa Kohn | Apr 24, 2023 | Recovery, Resilience
Perhaps there’s something about being raised in a cult that carves guilt and shame deeply into one’s psyche. (Trust me there is.) Perhaps it’s something that many, if not all, of us have had inflicted into us, one way or another. Either way, I am realizing more and...
by Lisa Kohn | Apr 17, 2023 | Recovery, Resilience
I feel like a broken record as I write, again, that healing is not linear and now can be hard. I’m tired of feeling that way, and I’m tired of writing that. I could clearly have even more self-compassion. So many of us have been so conditioned to push ourselves...
