Be nice to you

Be nice to you

Sometimes I think there is an epidemic of us not being nice to ourselves. I notice it in my friends, myself, my clients, pretty much all around. I was reading a post by Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess) about her depression. I watched myself feeling so proud of her and what...
Being weak is actually being strong

Being weak is actually being strong

I’ve written before about the incredible push I have to be “strong.” To never need help. To not falter. To be able to get through anything and do anything no matter what. I keep learning that that is a false sense of strong. I’m moving through a (hopefully) mild...
I like to break the rules

I like to break the rules

I had coffee with a dear friend this morning. I remember when I told her, years ago when I was first getting to know her, that I was a rule follower. “No one,” she replied, “no one, from just meeting you, from the outside, would ever know that.” I probably don’t look...
If you’re going to relax, go all in

If you’re going to relax, go all in

Some people might say I’m an all or nothing person. Some people might be right. Generally, when I commit myself to something, I go all in. I do very little halfway. Perhaps it’s my rampant perfectionism (remember, my brother once told me, “You even try to do...
Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.

Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.

It was my holiday gift from my older kid. A magnificent, weighty mug with words on it. Words that my kid, along with perhaps many other people, thought I needed to hear and know right now. Words I think that maybe many, if not all, of us need to hear and know right...
Progress not perfection…again

Progress not perfection…again

I first heard that saying when I crawled into Al-Anon. “Progress not perfection.” I have to admit, I didn’t quite understand it when I first heard it. Yes, it was a soothing thought. Yes, it took the pressure off. Yes, it gave me leeway to be human (something that...