Boundaries are sacred

Boundaries are sacred

“So, it’s okay that I have boundaries. That I say no. That I speak up for what I want,” I said to my therapist. “Not exactly,” she answered. “The truth is that boundaries are sacred.” I was blown away. “Everyone is not only entitled to them, but also needs them,” she...
We are all light and love

We are all light and love

My yellow birds have disappeared for over a week. I am sad. I really, really, really do feel so much joy every time I see one. I am also aware that I could find meaning in their being gone. My kid and I discussed this today – if I see their appearance as proof of...
I’m letting go of my deeply engrained guilt

I’m letting go of my deeply engrained guilt

Perhaps there’s something about being raised in a cult that carves guilt and shame deeply into one’s psyche. (Trust me there is.) Perhaps it’s something that many, if not all, of us have had inflicted into us, one way or another. Either way, I am realizing more and...
How can I have even more (self) compassion?

How can I have even more (self) compassion?

I feel like a broken record as I write, again, that healing is not linear and now can be hard. I’m tired of feeling that way, and I’m tired of writing that. I could clearly have even more self-compassion. So many of us have been so conditioned to push ourselves...