Be nice to you

by Lisa Kohn | Apr 1, 2019 | Recovery

Sometimes I think there is an epidemic of us not being nice to ourselves. I notice it in my friends, myself, my clients, pretty much all around. I was reading a post by Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess) about her depression. I watched myself feeling so proud of her and what...

Being weak is actually being strong

by Lisa Kohn | Mar 11, 2019 | Recovery

I’ve written before about the incredible push I have to be “strong.” To never need help. To not falter. To be able to get through anything and do anything no matter what. I keep learning that that is a false sense of strong. I’m moving through a (hopefully) mild...

I like to break the rules

by Lisa Kohn | Mar 4, 2019 | Recovery

I had coffee with a dear friend this morning. I remember when I told her, years ago when I was first getting to know her, that I was a rule follower. “No one,” she replied, “no one, from just meeting you, from the outside, would ever know that.” I probably don’t look...

If you’re going to relax, go all in

by Lisa Kohn | Feb 11, 2019 | Recovery

Some people might say I’m an all or nothing person. Some people might be right. Generally, when I commit myself to something, I go all in. I do very little halfway. Perhaps it’s my rampant perfectionism (remember, my brother once told me, “You even try to do...

Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.

by Lisa Kohn | Jan 14, 2019 | Recovery

It was my holiday gift from my older kid. A magnificent, weighty mug with words on it. Words that my kid, along with perhaps many other people, thought I needed to hear and know right now. Words I think that maybe many, if not all, of us need to hear and know right...

Progress not perfection…again

by Lisa Kohn | Dec 10, 2018 | Recovery

I first heard that saying when I crawled into Al-Anon. “Progress not perfection.” I have to admit, I didn’t quite understand it when I first heard it. Yes, it was a soothing thought. Yes, it took the pressure off. Yes, it gave me leeway to be human (something that...