Acceptance is the answer to all my problems

Acceptance is the answer to all my problems

Many, many years ago, when I was at an all-time low, someone shared with me page 449 of the Alcoholics Anonymous “big book.” “Read it,” they said. “Read it and reread it and reread it and remember it.” It reads like this: “And acceptance is the answer to all my...
Soothe yourself as often as you can

Soothe yourself as often as you can

It’s a simple thought. It’s an important thought. Soothe yourself as often as you can. The more I connect with other Second Gens (people born and/or raised in cults or extremist situations). The more I connect with other people who have faced childhood challenges (or...
I spoke at a workshop on extremist groups last week

I spoke at a workshop on extremist groups last week

It was an amazing week. I was in Scotland, where I hadn’t been since the late 80s when I went back to visit my friends from when I spent a semester at the Uni there in the early 80s. I was in Stirling and walked the Uni. I was in Edinburgh. I saw old friends and made...
Beauty is all around me…am I noticing it?

Beauty is all around me…am I noticing it?

The sun is shining. The breeze is whispering through the trees. The wind chimes are chiming. The birds are chirping. There is so much beauty all around me. Am I noticing it? Each day – each moment – I have a choice. Left to its own devices, my mind can swirl with...
What are the other dumb things that I believe?

What are the other dumb things that I believe?

Whenever my clients tell me it’s like they have me whispering in their ears – like the cartoon angels and devils sitting on the shoulders of cartoon characters and whispering in their ears – I apologize wholeheartedly. I know my mind can be a scary place to be inside...