If you’re going to relax, go all in

If you’re going to relax, go all in

Some people might say I’m an all or nothing person. Some people might be right. Generally, when I commit myself to something, I go all in. I do very little halfway. Perhaps it’s my rampant perfectionism (remember, my brother once told me, “You even try to do...
Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.

Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.

It was my holiday gift from my older kid. A magnificent, weighty mug with words on it. Words that my kid, along with perhaps many other people, thought I needed to hear and know right now. Words I think that maybe many, if not all, of us need to hear and know right...
Progress not perfection…again

Progress not perfection…again

I first heard that saying when I crawled into Al-Anon. “Progress not perfection.” I have to admit, I didn’t quite understand it when I first heard it. Yes, it was a soothing thought. Yes, it took the pressure off. Yes, it gave me leeway to be human (something that...
Relax into it

Relax into it

Again, a yoga practice. Thank goodness I have my yoga practice and instructors to remind me of what I think I know but somehow always need to be reminded of. Relax into it. It’s true of my yoga practice. It’s true of my life. My general way of being? Push through...
I have nothing to prove

I have nothing to prove

There are so many ways that I can feel as if I don’t measure up. There are so many times when I see myself as lacking something – or as just lacking. There are so many moments when I watch myself through judging eyes. I try to remind myself that I have nothing to...
We are only as sick as our secrets

We are only as sick as our secrets

When I crawled into Al-Anon over thirty years ago, grasping the refrain resounding in my head – “Tell me if he’s an alcoholic. There’s no way I would ever be with an alcoholic.” – this was one of the simple, yet powerful, slogans they offered me. “We are only as sick...