I am resilient beyond f—g belief…but do I always need to be?

by Lisa Kohn | Jan 31, 2022 | Resilience

There is a lot of talk about grit these days. Grit and resilience. How we have, perhaps, coddled our children too much, and they therefore don’t have enough grit or resilience. Or any maybe. I don’t know if that’s true, and I’m pretty sure my kiddos are gritty. But...

Breathe into the tight spots

by Lisa Kohn | Jan 24, 2022 | Resilience

I am a survivor of complex trauma. The cult I was raised in did really f—d up things to my brain, and I am still unraveling that. I may always be unraveling that. And then there’s all the other “non-cult” stuff as well. I am also fine. Really fine. Not even fine, but...

I’m right where I need to be (despite how I might feel)

by Lisa Kohn | Oct 18, 2021 | Resilience

I will admit that where I am sitting right now is pretty magnificent. I’m sitting on the balcony of my dear friend’s apartment, looking across the Hudson River to the city I will probably always call home, even though I don’t live there anymore. It’s a clear,...

I’m not responsible for anything

by Lisa Kohn | Oct 4, 2021 | Resilience

I was raised knowing that I was responsible to ease God’s suffering and that any doubt in my mind or heart, any time I selfishly thought of myself first…or at all, any misstep or misaction I took would break God’s heart. While I now know that that is ludicrous – that...

I love the feeling of taking up all my space

by Lisa Kohn | Aug 2, 2021 | Resilience

Recently I’ve been feeling as if I’m somehow leaking out of myself. I don’t know how to explain it. It’s as if there are holes in my being and I’m seeping out of those holes, instead of being whole. So, I’m working on that. This may sound weird (not that there’s...

If you can’t breathe, why bother?

by Lisa Kohn | Jul 26, 2021 | Resilience

This was offered by a yoga instructor, and it has stayed with me. If I can’t breathe, why bother? I know the instructor was talking about yoga poses and practice, but I find that it pertains not just to that but to pretty much everything. Or actually to everything....