Be okay with exactly where you are

Okay, so maybe I’m just repeating the wisdom my yoga instructors share in our classes, but I figure if they touch, inspire, and help me, they might be useful to others as well. So here we go….

“Be okay with exactly where you are.”

Now, clearly, the instructor was referring to our yoga practice, and poses. Because in a world (and a class) full of over-achievers and over-doers, I humbly believe that we can never have too many reminders. Okay, so I can never have too many reminders. Each time they pause me and center me. And ground me.

Be okay with exactly where you are. Be okay with exactly where you are.

I caught the “not enough” bug at a young age. I know I say that all the time here, but it’s true. I caught it well, and I caught it hard.

I lovingly put the “not enough” bug away each time it kicks back in. The shame washes over me, and I breathe. My stomach clenches, or my heart tightens, and I breathe. I remember that it’s exactly okay – I’m exactly okay – where I am.

I know my yoga instructor was referring to our yoga […]

I’m nauseous again. It’s a good thing.

I’m getting used to it I guess. Each new phase is nauseous making, and then I breathe through it and it lessens. A little bit.

This time it’s the cover we’re working on. Should it have a picture of me? Should it have a picture of a moon? Should it show New York City, the East Village? Should it be symbolic and not realistic?

It’s making me a bit nauseous. Again.

The good news is I remember I felt this way when we played with possible titles. And then we found the right one, and we knew. I felt this way as I spoke with publicists and marketing experts. And then I partnered with the right ones, and I knew.

The good news is that as soon as I felt the nausea seeping in, I remembered that I’d been through this before. That it’s scary…and exciting. That it’s overwhelming…and exhilarating. That it’s daunting…and fun.

I’m having fun. I’m having fun with the choices. I’m having fun envisioning the outcomes. I’m having fun with the process.

I know the final goal is a book – a book that inspires people and changes lives. Hopefully a book that finds its place on […]

Just breathe. Just be.

Every time I breathe consciously, I ground myself. Every time I remember to pay attention to where I am – when I notice my feet on the ground, my butt in my seat, my fingers on the keyboard of my computer – I build a stronger foundation with which to move forward. When I pay attention to how I am – when I observe my breath, the beating of my heart, my calmness (or lack thereof) – I remind myself to be.

It is so easy to get caught up in the busyness. It is so easy to rush forward, not seeing where I am, not present to what’s going on around – and inside – of me.

But when I breathe. When I pause. When I intentionally notice, there is so much to notice. There is so much to enjoy. To relish.

All I have to do is stop.

All I have to do is stop trying. Stop trying to make it better. Stop trying to make it more. Stop trying to achieve and overachieve.

Stop trying to keep myself safe (because I am safe). Stop trying to make up for all that’s wrong with me (because nothing is […]