I’m going to make this day the day

I’m going to make this day the day

It’s a new day. It’s a new year. I’m finding myself tied up in things I want to happen. Things that are, in many ways, for now at least, out of my control. I find myself caught in an endless loop of questions – What do I need to do? How can I make this happen? When...
This is your life. Right. Now.

This is your life. Right. Now.

This is not a dress rehearsal. That is what someone told me decades ago, when I crawled into Al-Anon. It’s not like this is the practice run for our next life. This is it. I mean, it may be a practice run – and sometimes I like to think it is because I’d like to come...
How can I soothe myself right now?

How can I soothe myself right now?

I don’t know if it’s the time of year – I do have 28 people at my house tomorrow – or if it’s got nothing to do with anything. I have been feeling tense. That old anxious feeling, for no particular reason (again, unless it’s the 28 people coming to my house). I feel...
Progress not perfection…again

Progress not perfection…again

I first heard that saying when I crawled into Al-Anon. “Progress not perfection.” I have to admit, I didn’t quite understand it when I first heard it. Yes, it was a soothing thought. Yes, it took the pressure off. Yes, it gave me leeway to be human (something that...