If you’re going to relax, go all in

If you’re going to relax, go all in

Some people might say I’m an all or nothing person. Some people might be right. Generally, when I commit myself to something, I go all in. I do very little halfway. Perhaps it’s my rampant perfectionism (remember, my brother once told me, “You even try to do...
I have wholed

I have wholed

I got a tattoo this summer. It’s something I’ve been meaning to do for a while – decades even. Probably over thirty years ago I asked Danny’s (my dad) ex-girlfriend, who had become a tattoo artist, to do it for me. She refused, citing maternal prerogative, claiming I...
It’s all about connection

It’s all about connection

A dear friend emailed me the other day, asking for help. She, like many people, finds these times troubling. “How does one manage one’s outrage and feelings of helplessness when we watch what’s going on in this country?” she asked. Her father is a Holocaust...
I am not in control

I am not in control

I am not in control. That may not come as a surprise to you, but somehow it’s always shocking to me. Even as much as I know that nearly everything is out of my control, at times I think and act like I’m in charge of everything. Or at least like I should be. I don’t...
I distract myself

I distract myself

The other day a dear friend asked me what I did when I was upset at something, or someone. When my anger or sadness was taking over every minute. How did I handle it to stay calm and okay? I paused before answering. (Did I mention we were running, and I always have to...