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Milk it baby!

The snow outside is beautiful. I’m going to milk that feeling. I don’t have to shovel it. I’m going to milk that feeling too.

I’m snuggled inside, sipping my tea, with my feet in cozy slippers, texting with my oldest child (while I’m supposedly focusing on writing my blog). All of this is also worth milking.

I’m going to milk it.

My life is wonderful. My life growing up, not so much (as someone who was there with me reminded me of yesterday). I’m going to milk the wonderful. I have learned that my day can be good or my day can be bad, and much of that has to do with how I choose to focus and what I choose to notice. Today I’m going to – again – notice the good, focus on what’s working, and milk it, milk it, milk it.

When someone asks me how I feel about turning in my manuscript, I’m going tell them how outrageously pumped and excited I am and choose not to – for this moment – give credence to my fear. When someone asks me how work is going, I’m going to tell them “actually better than ever – we’re busy and it’s all fun!” and choose not to – for this moment – add, “and I wonder how I’ll get it all done.”

When things have been sucky, I’ve learned to lean into the suck (with a few reminders from a few good friends). When things are good, I’m going to lean into the good. I’m going to notice and bask and enjoy. I’m going to imagine the book as a book going gangbusters and picture how much fun it will be to finalize the title and sign copies at as many book signings as I can book.

I’m going to see the beauty rather than the struggle. I’m going to relish the fun along the way rather than dread what I might mess up. I’m going to milk every little (and big) thing I can that is going well. Or splendidly. Or even just hopefully in the right direction.

I’ve learned (and studied) that what I choose to look at and focus on has a huge effect on how my day and life go. I’ve learned (and studied) that my mind is mine to direct, and how I direct it matters.

For today, once again, I’m going to find everything I can to be even the littlest bit stoked about, and I’m going to milk it, milk it, milk it baby!

And reap the benefits. And enjoy my day.

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I’m going to have a good day

I woke up this morning with a justifiable reason not to have a good day. But I’m going to have a good day.

I woke up this morning with a justifiable reason to be frustrated and disheartened. But I’m going to be heartened and hopeful instead.

I don’t know if I always was a “glass half-full” kind of person. I know that I work hard to be one now. I don’t want to ignore or negate the awful things in the world or the challenging aspects of my life, but I do want to choose to see the upside and potential. I’ve learned that a positive outlook literally broadens our peripheral vision and allows us to see more opportunities. Opportunities we might miss if we’re hunkered down in the negative.

I believe (finally) in all my feelings. After years of not having – or at least not admitting or allowing – any sadness or anger, I know how life-affirming it is (for me at least) to admit and allow the full range of my emotions. The “good” and the “bad.”

But, I don’t want to be anchored in the anger or sadness. I no longer want to be mired in or defined by my pain. I want to look for reasons – and create reasons when necessary – to have a good day.

I can notice the sunshine and the leaves blowing in the wind. I can breathe deep and feel my mind and soul ease. I can think of the people I love and the friendship and joy I have in my life.

And I can have a good day.

Have a good day.

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Have fun with it or forget about it

I wrote a few years ago about – in my view – the importance of having fun. Of intentionally choosing to have fun.

I’m writing about it again.

In My Humble Opinion, fun is underrated. Fun is undervalued. And fun is underused.

And In My Humble Opinion, it often comes down to a matter of choice.

Someone whose opinion I value offered this in fact – “Have fun with it or forget about it.” That, I believe is a call to action. A throwing down of the gauntlet. A challenge worth taking.

It’s a drastically new approach for me for decide if something is fun or not, and then if it is to plunge into it wholeheartedly and whole-energetically, and if it’s not to walk away and forget about it. I think it goes against every ingrained grain of my psyche that lives by the “Do the work. Do the hard work. Don’t ever give up. Give it more if it’s harder. Don’t fail. Ever.” mentality.

Which is probably why it’s a great approach for me to take.

Every time I push even a little bit against my over-doer, over-achiever, over-driven being, I believe it’s a good thing. I may intentionally decide to still do, achieve, and drive, but being in the mindset and behavior by choice is freeing in and of itself.

What would your life be like if you only did something if it felt like fun? What would my life be like? What would my day be like? What would my day be like if I didn’t play by all the rules, and instead I honored my inner playfulness. If I chose the choice that seemed like it would make me laugh – or at least smile – and bring more joy and fun to my day (and to those around me).

I suppose that at some point I’ll overdo the joy, fun, play, ease, lighten up thing. But I know me. I probably still have a long way to go before I’m erring in that direction.

For today I’m going to do the things that feel like fun, and I’m going to do my best to bring fun to the things I choose to do. Or I’m going to let it go and forget about it.

It seems like a decent challenge to make of myself. It seems like a decent challenge to make of you.

Have fun with it. Or forget about it.

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