I’m no longer calling him the Messiah

I’m no longer calling him the Messiah

There’s a line I use when I describe a particularly scarring moment in my adolescence – “The Messiah said I was bad.” In many ways this accurately captures what happened. A dear friend of mine was caught in a desperate situation, and in order to protect herself – to...
Be more. Do less.

Be more. Do less.

When I crawled into Al-Anon decades and decades ago, I heard the concept, “I am a human being, not a human doing.” I wrapped my head around it and began to remind myself to just be rather than do, and to remind myself again to just be rather than do. It is a tough...
I have nothing to prove

I have nothing to prove

There are so many ways that I can feel as if I don’t measure up. There are so many times when I see myself as lacking something – or as just lacking. There are so many moments when I watch myself through judging eyes. I try to remind myself that I have nothing to...
How to find your way back

How to find your way back

It was my book reading in DC. There were people attending who I knew from various parts of my life – high school friends, local friends, family. There were strangers attending who had come simply to hear me talk and to buy my book. (Very cool!) There were former...
I am under the influence

I am under the influence

That’s the thought that came to me this week, “what influence am I under?” Am I looking for the good, as I’ve taught myself to do. Am I appreciating? Am I allowing? Am I basking and enjoying and noticing what’s working? Am I at ease? Or am I worried? Am I choosing to...