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Breathe into the space

There is a lot going on. We’re putting the finishing touches on the digital versions of to the moon and back and pushing to finalize the paperback version so that can go up for preorder too — plus finalizing a pre-order incentive campaign that hits soon. Not to mention life, family, friends, my consulting practice and clients, self-care, yoga, lifting, running, meditating…Phew!!

No wonder I feel busy and a bit overwhelmed. Blessed, but busy and a bit overwhelmed.

Then my yoga instructor reminded us (me) to breathe into the space. And to allow there to be space.

That’s what I’m doing. That’s what I’m living.

When I breathe, I slow down. Even if it’s barely perceptible, I still feel it. My mind calms, and my heart eases. I think my (much more) regular yoga and meditation practices have strengthened my calming and easing muscles, because I slip into that place more easily now.

When I breathe into the space, I remember that ALL things are possible, and that many, many things are good. My perception shifts; my joy deepens; my peace broadens.

Breathe into the space.

Is it really that simple, my doubting mind asks? Can breath really make that much of a difference?

It does. It does every time.

It still amazes me how easy it is to get caught up in everything, how easy it is to feel anxious and buried and behind. It also amazes me how easy it is to realize – remember – that I very rarely need to be that caught up in everything and anxious. Even if I am buried and behind, it very rarely helps me to feel buried and behind.

Breath into the space. Allow the space. Embrace – and delight in – the space.

Breathe into the space.

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Joyful in my now

I’ve decided to be joyful in my now.

I know – I decide this often. Over and over again I decide I’ll do it. Over and over again I recommit myself to it.

There is so much to be joyful about. There are so many reasons to smile. Even as I write this, I can feel the corners of my mouth turn up – and I haven’t even begun to list the many reasons yet.

There are the Ping-Pong games I played with my child. Yeah, he beat me. He beat me badly a number of times, but boy did we laugh. There are the peonies from my friend’s garden. There are the figs that my husband just dropped into the salad he’s making for dinner. Anticipatory joy.

There’s every time I pick up the Advanced Reader Copy of to the moon and back, and I see that it’s a book. A real book. My brother is here for the holiday weekend. I got a text from my childhood Church friends. Sitting in the passenger seat of the car as my youngest practices his driving. And on and on.

I’ve decided to be joyful even when it’s tough. Lean into the suck. Embrace the s—t. And look for joy. The sunshine, flowers, music, hugs. And on and on. By grace I am almost always able to pull myself out a bit and find a way to release. And find a way to joy.

That’s pretty much all I have to say about this for now, as I sit here in my now.

I’ve decided to be joyful in my now.

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Lean into the suck. Embrace the s—t.

I live my life (mostly) trying to find my light and ease. To look for what’s working and what’s good. To bounce off of my struggles and soothe my heart.

I live that way. I write about it. I teach it.

Then there are times the only thing – or best thing – that has eased and soothed my heart and soul has been to lean into the suck. To acknowledge it and admit it.

Years ago I was in a very difficult place, struggling with a physical ailment that was knocking me to my knees. Over and over again. But I fought to find the good in it. I fought to stay positive at all times, to see what was right in my stinking situation.

Until a friend asked me how I was doing (as she drove me to our joint destination, as I could no longer drive due to my physical condition). I gave her all my platitudes. I pointed out all I was learning and how I was growing. I shared the rosy side of what was going on.

“But doesn’t it suck?” she asked me. “Why don’t you just admit it sucks?”

“Oh Lin,” I said. “It sucks. It sucks so, so much.” With that admission, my pained lessened a bit.

I’ve learned that while – for me at least – it is a best practice to find lightness and positivity, there comes a time when admitting my struggle and pain releases a bit of my struggle and pain. Perhaps because it takes so much energy to “be positive” when I feel anything but positive. Perhaps because my trying to be optimistic is lying about how I actually feel, and this self-dishonestly hurts. And hurts me.

There are times – for me at least – to lean into the suck.

There are also times to embrace my s—t. it is what it is. I am who and how I am. I may be on a lifelong journey to be my best self and to live my best life, but when I admit my foibles – when I own and even welcome my blemishes, faults, and the yucky parts of my personality and behavior – I again free myself.

I can still put too much pressure on myself to be my best self. I can still get lost in trying too hard and needing to be too perfect. I can still want to walk away from my humanness and, I guess, be without fault.

None of those habits work, and faultless isn’t true. Or possible.

When I can, instead, be human, I’m human. I’m real, and I’m happier.

When I can lean into the suck and embrace my s—t, when I can stop putting so much energy behind being perfect or fighting the truth of how awful I feel in the moment or trying so hard to reach some ideal that I learned (or made up) all those years ago, I am somehow more at peace. With less suck and less s—t.

Go figure.

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